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Jolien Spoelstra Speaker interview booking
Jolien Spoelstra Interview

In addition to my work as a Sexologist and EFT Relational Therapist, I am also an author, lecturer, speaker, and media spokesperson. As such, I am available for interviews and bookings as a lecturer and public speaker on the topic of relationships and sex.

Topics that I talk about include:

  • Diversity in relational forms – How do we place the concepts of monogamy and consensual non-monogamy in a cultural-historical perspective and how do people transition from a monogamous relationship to a consensual non-monogamous relationship, such as an open relationship or polyamory?

  • Good sex in a long-term relationship – What people manage to maintain a satisfying sex life in a long-term relationship, and what can we learn from them? How can the dynamics in your relationship cause, perpetuate, or exacerbate sexual problems, and what can you do to change this?

  • Female Sexuality – What makes female sexuality different from male sexuality and what complaints do women experience sexually? What gets in the way of female sexual pleasure and what role do socialization, beauty standards and sex myths play?


Interested? Feel free to contact me!

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01 Apr 2026

BNNVARA Podcast 'Echte Oogappels'

Recently, I was a guest on Margreet Reijntjes’ podcast ‘Echt Oogappels’, based on the popular Dutch TV series. Want to know how to keep the sex going in a long-term relationship and discuss difficult topics? The podcast is now available everywhere!

May 11, 2026

Radio Program 'June Tot Twee'

A few times a year, I join the radio program ‘June Tot Twee’ to discuss relationships and sex with June Hoogcarspel. Recently, I was a guest from 13:00 to 13:30, and we discussed the phenomenon of ‘sexting’. The program can be listened to again via nhnieuws.nl.

Online

RTL.nl 'Living with a messy partner'

Housekeeping and how to tidy up leads to discussion in many relationships. Where one person likes to keep everything structured and neat, the other has less need for that. In this article I discuss where these differences come from and how couples can deal with them. Read the entire article on rtl.nl.

Aug 21-23, 2026

De Sekszusjes at Lowlands '26

For the past few years, I have been manning ‘The Sex Clinic’ of De Sekszusjes at Lowlands. Anyone can walk in there to ask questions or discuss sexual problems. In 2026, I will once again be found together with De Sekszusjes at the oh-so-cozy Ohlalaantje.

This post is also available in: NL ENG

This post is also available in: NL ENG