Bobby sits in the waiting room talking to someone on her phone. As we walk up the stairs to my practice, she quickly completes her call. Once on the couch, her phone starts buzzing again. She looks at the screen, hesitates to type a reply, but then decides to put it on airplane mode.
“Pff… Work is really crazy this week, so busy. The girls are also back in full swing with school. Then there are all their hobby’s, really… Since the vacation ended, it’s just been crazy!”
“And where is Mart, couldn’t he be there today?” I ask surprised. “Oh yeah, totally forgot to tell you. He wasn’t going to make it. There’s a deadline at the office and a plasterer is coming for the expansion of the house, you know. Someone had to stay home…” She glances fleetingly at her watch and sighs, “Good, let’s get started, because I actually have to leave at exactly ten o’clock.”
I try to ask the question as openly as possible, but actually I already know the answer, “Tell me, Bobby, Mart and you are seeing me because of sexual problems and last time I gave you guys an assignment. How has that been going?” Bobby sighs. “You know, Jolien, I’ve come to the conclusion that we’re both just too busy for sex. That’s our problem…”
For a moment there is silence. “Okay,” I begin. “I think you’re right… Indeed, it sounds like sex is not a priority right now and other things are more important. Perhaps you should let it go, then, the sex. At this point in your lives, maybe it’s just not in the cards.”
