Umaversity – Why monogamy isn’t the default

In cooperation with Umaversity
June 4, 2025

Episode description

‘Why monogamy isn’t the default: Unlearning sex scripts, reclaiming sexual desire & monogamy myths’
Can desire survive long-term love? What happens when your libido disappears—or never showed up in the first place? And is monogamy even natural… or just a default setting? In this radically honest episode of the Umaversity Podcast, we sit down with Jolien Spoelstra (relational therapist and board-certified sexologist) and talk about sex and relationships.

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This post is also available in: NL ENG

This post is also available in: NL ENG