Else is sitting on the couch with her arms and legs crossed. With her cowboy boots and short skirt, she looks tough and sexy. But she doesn’t feel that way. “It just makes me very insecure,” she begins to explain. “It’s not that it bothers me physically and according to the gynecologist there’s nothing wrong with it, but I still feel like everyone sees it.” I take notes as she continues her story.
“If I wear a bikini or a legging, I think everyone will see my labia through them. Let alone that I would go to a sauna or just dare to have sex with someone… What would people think? No, no way!” she says firmly. A shiver seems to run down her spine.
“But Else, what if people could see something through your clothes, why would that be a problem?” I ask. Else looks startled. “I would be really, terribly embarrassed. It’s so discusting… I just want to get rid of it!” she then says.
“Okay, so you find it embarrassing and discusting,” I summarize. She nods affirmatively. “But what if I told you that most women have the inner labia that are a bit longer than the outer ones? So the fact that yours stick out a little is perfectly normal. Or should all women be ashamed of their bodies?” As I talk, Else relaxes her arms and lets them rest in her lap. “Besides, labia are considered very beautiful by a lot of people.
