“At first it was great, of course, but after a while it just didn’t work out, did it?” Says Tom as he looks questioningly at his girlfriend. “Yeah, that’s right. We were both busy with other things at the time and couldn’t get along. That’s why we decided to open it up,” Jikke adds. “You mean you guys chose an ‘open relationship’ then?” I ask.
“Yes,” Tom says. “That actually worked really well for us. It made our lives exciting again. Everything that was taken for granted suddenly became something valuable againg, and that was exactly what we needed at the time.” Jikke nods in agreement.
“I do notice that you talk in the ‘past tense.’ Did it not work out in the end?” I ask them both. They look at each other for a moment. With his gaze, he seems to give her a little nudge. Then Jikke tells me how she fell madly in love with someone with whom she occasionally had sex. And how, after a while, the spark also ignited in the other person. Now it is much more than just sex and she absolutely does not want to lose the person she fell in love with.
After sharing her story, Jikke rubs Tom’s leg for a moment. Tom grips her hand tightly. “But it seems you don’t want to lose each other either or am I seeing this wrong?” I ask cautiously. “I certainly don’t want to lose her,” Tom says immediately. He looks at his girlfriend for a moment. “And I don’t want to leave you at all either, but it is very confusing,” Jikke then says.
