“Might it be an idea to have a nice long kissing session again, as you probably had at the beginning of your relationship?” I suggest to the couple sitting across from me. “After all, extended kissing without the pressure of having to do anything else can cause an increase in arousal. This can slowly turn into a desire for more.”
The sex life of the couple I’m seeing has not been greatl for some time now. They come to me, hoping to find a solution to this problem. But when I share my proposal, I see that one of them looks at me excitedly, while the other turns looks back in disgust. “I just don’t really like kissing,” he begins. “All that saliva, a tongue in my mouth… Yuck!” He looks a little flustered at his girlfriend. She shrugs her shoulders.
“Well, so this is one of the problems. He doesn’t like it when I start kissing him. But I do like kissing. So we don’t really match when it comes to that.” I turn to her boyfriend. “Tell me, during sex, when you’re aroused… do you kiss?” Out of the corner of my eye, I see his girlfriend nodding. “Yes, I do,” he says sort of surprised. “Pretty strange actually, but when we’re having sex, I don’t find it disgusting at all.”
