Shape Your Love Life.

Sexologist +
Relational therapist

Your sexuality is layered. A unique story shaped by beliefs and experiences. Which ones would you like to explore?

Shape Your Love Life

In my work as a Sexologist and EFT Relationship Therapist, I operate at the intersection of relationships and sex. Where every person is different, every story unique.

I guide people in exploring their experiences and beliefs. Together, we’ll explore how your story came about and what you want to keep or let go of. Learn to shape your love life so it fits you best!

Change Patterns.

In my private practice in Haarlem, you can come, alone or together, for sexological treatment and relational therapy.

You’ll learn to communicate better about boundaries and desires and navigate different interests more effectively. Furthermore, underlying patterns will be exposed and addressed. This way, the emotional and sexual connection will not only be restored but also deepened.

Jolien Spoelstra Book Exhilirating Life

My book invites you to dive into your own stories and shape them.

Love Life Academy

Courses and other tools to explore your love life at your own pace.
Online, practical, and always layered.

Here you’ll find courses and tools that dive just a little deeper. Clear information and tools to help you explore your story and understand yourself even better. Then decide for yourself which beliefs you want to keep, which new experiences you want to embrace.

Echte Oogappels where's the passion podcast on sex in a long relationship
Echte Oogappels – Where’s the passion? (in Dutch)
Santé loneliness in a relationship, feeling alone in a relationship
Santé – Alone together
Santé planning sex how to keep sex good with busy schedules
Santé – Too busy for sex
Interviews
& Bookings

In addition to my work as a therapist, I am available for interviews and can be booked as a public speaker or teacher.

Topics I speak about include relational diversity (open relationships, polyamory, etc.) and sex in long-term relationships. Interested? Feel free to contact me.

This post is also available in: NL ENG

This post is also available in: NL ENG